Sadness and Depression

Sadness and depression are a natural part of the grieving process when a relationship ends. Unlike playing the victim, which is an example of taking sadness and depression to far, I simply must point out in this article that these feelings are totally normal and to deny them would be wrong.

You need to acknowledge and honour these feelings, you need to cry when you feel the need and work through your sadness, anger, hurt and all those negative emotions that rear their ugly head when love comes to an end. No-one can help the way they feel, and no-one should deny how they feel. However there are things that can eventuate from feeling sad and depressed that could lead to mistakes.

It is important that I stress the point here that your own mental well-being is your first priority and if crying, or writing your thought of sadness in a journal help you with the grieving process then do it. Do whatever makes you feel better. I know for me, that having a good cry when I’m sad helps me. It is also necessary for your own mental well-being to not let depression get out of control. These feelings can sometimes take over, and really do some damage. It’s awfully hard to know where to draw the line, given that you should be acknowledging your emotions.

So how do you know where to draw the line? Are you laying around on the lounge day after day in your night-gown, unable or not willing to leave the house? Are you refusing invitation from friends to go out and do things, choosing to be alone with your thoughts? Are you drinking to excess? Do you feel cranky all the time? Do you feel as though you are in a black hole (this is how one friend who has depression described it to me) and cannot climb out? If you can relate to any of the above, especially the last question, then I would say you are in trouble. If you are nodding your head as you are reading this, please, I implore you to see your doctor or a counselor and seek some help.

Crying, feeling sad and angry, feeling guilty are all normal emotions. And eventually you will be able to deal with these feelings a lot better. And for the first few weeks after a break up; it is normal to feel teary eyed and sad. Feeling guilty is another part of the process. You may not agree, but you could be feeling bad for whatever your part in the break up was. You may not even know why they broke it off. I didn’t when this happened to me. You may not want to know, but if you intend on re-uniting with your ex, you must resolve all issues before you make a decision to re-enter the relationship.

Lastly I will say, honor your feelings and do not deny them, but be careful that your sadness and depression is not taking over. If you feel in any doubt at all go and seek some help as soon as possible.



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